Friday, June 10, 2016

EXTREME MAKE OVER SOLUTION - TOPIC: BITTERNESS


EXTREME MAKE OVER SOLUTION
DR. JANET L. CLARY, LIFE COACH

BITTERNESS! - The Deadly Root that Devours and Destroys!

I. THE HORRIBLE EFFECTS OF BITTERNESS!

II. WHY DO PEOPLE BECOME BITTER?

III. HOW TO AVOID BITTERNESS!

IV. HOW TO GET RID OF BITTERNESS!

V. A PRAYER FOR DELIVERANCE AGAINST BITTERNESS!

BITTERNESS! - The Deadly Root that Devours and Destroys!
"Looking diligently lest any man fail of the grace of God; lest any root of bitterness springing up trouble you, and thereby many be defiled."--Heb.12:15.--Thus says God's Word about the adverse results of bitterness, a very poisonous root that can defile your whole spirit, and seriously hurt and defile many others as well!
One reason that bitterness is so extremely dangerous is because it can take root and begin to grow and spread and spiritually contaminate and defile your heart and spirit before you even realize what's wrong with you. Sinful human nature makes it very easy for us to rationalize and justify ourselves for harbouring hurt feelings or a grudge against others when we feel that they have wronged or mistreated us. In fact, we can even feel this way towards God!
Like the roots of most plants, little "roots" of resentment and bitterness usually lie below the surface where they remain unseen. But there they begin to spread and grow, going ever deeper and deeper. If allowed to continue, such roots of bitterness will eventually eat away at your very heart and spirit, until they will finally devour and destroy you spiritually!--Ultimately leaving you spiritually dead and virtually useless to the Lord!
South American vine known as the 'matador'
Bitterness is very much like the South American vine known as the "matador." Beginning at the foot of a tree, the matador vine slowly works its way to the top. But as it grows, it kills the tree, and when at last the top is reached, it sends forth a flower to crown itself. Matador literally means KILLER. Bitterness may appear harmless when it is small, but if it is allowed to grow, its tendrils of resentment, malice and hatred soon clasp themselves around the heart and eventually kill the soul.
This is why God's Word exhorts us to "Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger, and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice."--Eph.4:31. And that's what this lesson is all about: How to recognize, deal with and get rid of the deadly root known as bitterness, so that you may freely love and serve the Lord and others unhindered by this destructive device of the Devil!--That we may "lay aside every weight and the sin which doth so easily beset us!"--Heb.12:1.

I. THE HORRIBLE EFFECTS OF BITTERNESS!

A. It Will Hinder Your Relationship with the Lord and Your Service for Him!

When we're attacking the Enemy and doing all we can to conquer new territory and win new souls for God's Kingdom, the Devil, of course, is going to be quite busy trying to stop us! And, thank God, he can't stop us if we don't let him. But if in some way you are harbouring his negative and destructive thoughts, listening to his debilitating doubts, or entertaining his faith-weakening fears, that is a partial surrender to the Enemy.--And any surrender to the Devil is always going to cause you trouble!
If you allow bitterness and resentment and a critical spirit to grow in your life, you will lose your anointing and your inspiration from the Lord. You can't keep complaining about and resenting your lot in life, and criticising and murmuring about things that God or others have done to you, and keep God's Holy Spirit on you at the same time. You just can't do it. The Lord dwells in the praises of His people, and He draws near to us when we draw near to Him, "offering the sacrifice of praise to God continually, that is, the fruit of our lips giving thanks to His name."--Psa.22:3; Jam.4:8; Heb.13:15.
"But without faith it is impossible to please Him."--Heb.11:6. If you don't accept the things that the Lord sends into your life, if you not only doubt and wonder about His treatment and care of you, but actually murmur and resent and rebel against it, that's certainly not faith, and surely displeases the Lord!
And if you allow that root of bitterness to take hold in your heart and life, it will cause you to fail both the Lord and yourself. Such a root can go a Hell of a long way, and can ultimately destroy you.--It can at least destroy your ministry, and your effectiveness for the Lord, and it can even harm the entire Work of God that you're supposed to be helping.
Leonardo da Vinci frustrated in how to paint the face of Jesus
The way that bitterness can hinder your ministry and effectiveness is illustrated in the following true story about the great artist and engineer, Leonardo Da Vinci: Just before he commenced work on his famous painting of "The Last Supper" he had a violent quarrel with a fellow painter. He was so enraged and bitter that he decided to paint the face of his enemy, the other artist, into the face of Judas, and thus take his revenge by handing the man down in infamy and scorn to succeeding generations. The face of Judas was therefore one of the first that he finished, and everyone could easily recognize it as the face of the painter with whom da Vinci had quarreled.
But when he came to paint the face of Jesus, he could make no progress. Something seemed to be baffling him, holding him back, frustrating his best efforts. At length he came to the conclusion that the thing that was checking and frustrating him was the fact that he had painted his enemy into the face of Judas. He therefore painted out the face of Judas and commenced anew on the face of Jesus, and this time with the success which the ages have acclaimed.
How clearly this incident shows us that we cannot at one and the same time be painting the features of Christ into our own life, and be painting another face with the colors of enmity and hatred. To become more Christ-like, and to accomplish what the Lord wants you to do, surely all bitterness and hatred must be "put away" and "laid aside."

B. Bitterness Opens the Door to the Enemy!

To wilfully allow little roots of bitterness to grow in your life is like knowingly letting the Devil in! Such discontentment and resentment and murmuring in your heart will just grow and grow and begin to cover and affect everything around you. That's what bitterness does.--Which is why you've got to try to catch it at the very beginning before it takes root too deeply, and root it out!
This is why the Lord tells us, "Neither give place to the Devil!"--Eph.4:27. This verse shows that you can sometimes give the Devil place and room to operate and get in without necessarily being completely taken over or possessed by him. But let me warn you, he'll use whatever you let him get a hold of, so you'd better resist and give him no place!--So beware of letting the Enemy in through the little seeds and tiny roots of jealousy, murmuring or bitterness that he may try to sow in your heart!

C. Bitterness Will Even Affect You Physically!

The affairs of the heart and affairs of the spirit can affect you physically! In medical science they call such afflictions "psychosomatic" illnesses, which means they are caused by your mind. But we'd say they're caused by your spirit, by an improper attitude of heart, primarily a lack of love for the Lord and others.
There are all kinds of little roots, little roots of bitterness, little roots of jealousy, little roots of resentment, little roots of hurt feelings, and they can all get pretty bitter and they can all grow and they will all begin to eat on you from within, if you let them.--Until pretty soon they will crop out in very obvious or even physical manifestations.
Doctors have found that people who are bitter and have a lot of hatred in their hearts, have much more arthritis than those who are at peace. Similarly, they've discovered that those who have a lot of fear in their minds--worries, tension, phobias, etc.--have a lot more mental trouble and more stomach trouble, as well as more heart trouble.
Thank God that the elimination of fear by faith gives peace of mind and rest to your stomach and to your heart, and actually eliminates various poisons from the blood which cause illness. In other words, your state of mind and heart can actually poison your body. Science knows this and has proven it true.

D. Bitterness Will Hurt and "Defile" Many Others!

How can one individual's bitterness "defile many"? Well, there are several ways. For one thing, people who are really bitter about one thing, will easily become bitter about other things too. It's usually because they never blame themselves for anything that seems to go wrong, they're always blaming other people, similar to the self-righteous hypocrite who never blames himself either.
People who are discontent and murmuring and resentful and critical are usually never satisfied unless they can persuade others of their own opinion. Misery loves company, and they love to have other people agree with them; and sad to say, it's usually easy to find'm. Belly-aching, murmuring and complaining is a very common ailment of the human race and something that is very easy to fall into. But from God's point of view, it is a sin that is absolutely intolerable. Just read the story of the wandering Children of Israel and you'll see how He let millions of people rot in the Sinaitic Desert for their murmuring and their complaining, and they never got into the Promised Land! (Num.32:11-13.)
Bitterness and murmuring are a very infectious spiritual disease, diabolical, and can spread and poison others very quickly if left unchecked. One bad apple can do it so fast! The Bible warns us, "Know ye not that a little leaven leaveneth the whole lump? Purge out therefore the old leaven, that ye may be a new lump!"--1Cor. 5:6,7. Just like a tiny pinch of yeast will spread throughout an entire "lump" of dough and cause the whole thing to rise, people who are permeated with bitterness are a real burden and a real downer influence, and will drag everybody down that they can, pulling everybody's spirits down. They're always dwelling on the negative and always criticizing and always murmuring.

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Monday, June 6, 2016

EXTREME MAKE OVER SOLUTIONS


EXTREME MAKE OVER SOLUTIONS
DR. JANET L. CLARY, LIFE COACH



Determining your body shape is often the first step in learning how to dress in a way that makes your body look its best. Nearly every woman has problem areas she would like to cover, as well as positive features she would like to show off. In this guide, we'll talk about properly examining your body, taking your measurements, and what body type you fall into. Examining your shape allows you the opportunity to gain a better understanding of what these areas are, which will later allow you to learn about dressing to flatter your figure. 


How to Determine Your Body Type | Jalisa's Fashion Files




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Determine and embrace your body type



The first step to finding the right clothes to bring out your inner goddess, is to figure out your specific body type so that you can play up your best features.

Body shape is all about proportion, and fashion is all about dressing those proportions to look their very best. When you think about body types, don't focus on height and weight... focus on shape. A slender gal can have the same body shape as a curvy gal, just as a short woman can have the same body shape as her taller friend. And it's not about trying to look thin; it's about accentuating your shape and enhancing what you have so you feel your best in every outfit you own.

Each of us is unique — and our bodies are, too! Nevertheless, our body shapes are generally narrowed down to five general categories: pear, wedge, rectangle, apple and hourglass. You might fall into one category, or you might be a blend of two or more categories.

Once you've determined your body shape, you can begin to consider which fashion trends to embrace and which to avoid. Spend some time in front of the mirror and do a fair and honest assessment of your body. Then put these fashion tips to work.

TOMORROW WE WILL CONTINUE WITH THE DIFFERENT BODY TYPES AND DO'S AND DO NOT


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Wednesday, May 25, 2016

Extreme Make Over Solutions



Extreme Make Over Solutions
Dr. Janet Clary, Life Coach


Every hair style does not compliment the shape of our face. Here are a few pointers to determine the best hair style solution for your face.

GETTING THE RIGHT HAIR STYLE TO SUIT YOUR FACE

        



HOW TO DETERMINE YOUR RIGHT EYE SHAPE

      HOW TO: FIND THE PERFECT EYELINER SHAPE FOR YOUR EYE SHAPE!


This seem to be a little thing, however, it's very important when we don't truly understand it make a difference for our hairstyle and make up dealing with our face shape & different eye shape.

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Monday, May 23, 2016

Extreme Make Over Solutions ~ Bringing Awareness of Depression


Extreme Make Over Solutions 

Bringing Awareness of Depression

Dr. Janet L. Clary, Life Coach & Host of The Fix It TV Show





The persistent feeling of sadness or loss of interest that characterizes major depression can lead to a range of emotional and physical conditions. These include inability to sleep or concentrate on tasks. Changes in appetite, decreased energy level, and thoughts of suicide are also seen.

THINGS YOU MAY EXPERIENCE:
Mood: anxiety, apathy, general discontent, guilt, hopelessness, inability to feel pleasure, loss of interest, mood swings, or sadness
Sleep: early awakening, excess sleepiness, insomnia, or restless sleep
Whole body: excessive hunger, fatigue, loss of appetite, or restlessness
Behavioral: agitation, excessive crying, irritability, or social isolation
Cognitive: lack of concentration, slowness in activity and thought, or thoughts of suicide.

What is depression? Depression is a common and debilitating mood disorder that is affecting more and more people around the world. An estimated 350 million people of all ages experience symptoms of depression and about 13 percent of Americans take antidepressants—a figure that jumps to 25 percent for women in their 40s and 50s. More than just sadness in response to life’s struggles and setbacks, depression changes how you think, feel, and function in daily activities. It can tire or deplete you and interfere with your ability to work, study, eat, sleep, and enjoy your life.  Severe depression can be intense and unrelenting.While some people describe depression as sadness or “living in a black hole,” others don't feel much at all. They feel lifeless, empty, and apathetic, or men in particular may even feel angry and restless. No matter how you experience depression, left untreated it can become increasingly debilitating. In addition to medication, there are now lifestyle changes that are proving just as effective in relieving mild to moderate forms of depression.

Question to ask yourself
Am I depressed? If you identify with several of the following signs and symptoms—especially the first two and they just won’t go away, you may be suffering from depression.
  • you feel hopeless and helpless
  • you’ve lost interest in friends, activities, and things you used to enjoy
  • you feel tired all the time your sleep and appetite has changed
  • you can’t concentrate or find that previously easy tasks are now difficult
  • you can’t control your negative thoughts, no matter how much you try
  • you are much more irritable, short-tempered, or aggressive than usual
  • you’re consuming more alcohol than normal or engaging in other reckless behavior 


 What are the signs and symptoms of depression?Depression varies from person to person, but there are some common signs and symptoms. The more symptoms you have, the stronger they are, and the longer they’ve lasted—the more likely it is that you’re dealing with depression
  • Feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. A bleak outlook—nothing will ever get better and there’s nothing you can do to improve your situation.
  • Loss of interest in daily activities. No interest in former hobbies, pastimes, social activities, or sex. You’ve lost your ability to feel joy and pleasure.
  • Appetite or weight changes. Significant weight loss or weight gain—a change of more than 5% of body weight in a month.
  • Sleep changes. Either insomnia, especially waking in the early hours of the morning, or oversleeping.
  • Anger or irritability. Feeling agitated, restless, or even violent. Your tolerance level is low, your temper short, and everything and everyone gets on your nerves.
  • Loss of energy. Feeling fatigued, sluggish, and physically drained. Your whole body may feel heavy, and even small tasks are exhausting or take longer to complete.
  • Self-loathing. Strong feelings of worthlessness or guilt. You harshly criticize yourself for perceived faults and mistakes.
  • Reckless behavior. You engage in escapist behavior such as substance abuse, compulsive gambling, reckless driving, or dangerous sports.
  • Concentration problems. Trouble focusing, making decisions, or remembering things.
  • Unexplained aches and pains. An increase in physical complaints such as headaches, back pain, aching muscles, and stomach pain.

Depression and suicide risk

Depression is a major risk factor for suicide. The deep despair and hopelessness that goes along with depression can make suicide feel like the only way to escape the pain. If you have a loved one with depression, take any suicidal talk or behavior seriously and recognize the warning signs:
  • Talking about killing or harming one’s self
  • Expressing strong feelings of hopelessness or being trapped
  • An unusual preoccupation with death or dying
  • Acting recklessly, as if they have a death wish (e.g. speeding through red lights)
  • Calling or visiting people to say goodbye
  • Getting affairs in order (giving away prized possessions, tying up loose ends)
  • Saying things like “Everyone would be better off without me” or “I want out”
  • A sudden switch from being extremely depressed to acting calm and happy
BISHOP T. D. JAKES TEACHING: "DEALING WITH DEPRESSION


Bishop T. D. Jakes "Dealing With Depression" Part II

When you’re feeling depressed or suicidal, your problems don’t seem temporary—they seem overwhelming and permanent. But with time, you will feel better, especially if you reach out for help. There are many people who want to  support you during this difficult time, so please reach out for help!

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Thursday, May 19, 2016

EXTREME MAKEOVER SOLUTIONS WITH DR. JANET CLARY, HOST OF THE FIX IT TV SHOW


  • Dr. Janet L. Clary, Life Coach

  • EXTREME MAKEOVER SOLUTION
  • EXTREME ~ very great in degree, very serious or severe,very far from agreeing with the opinions of most people : not moderate
  • MAKEOVER ~Remodeling; Renovation; Restoration:

  • My heart desire is that we discover that we are better than we feel about ourselves. What happened to us? LIFE. Mine started at an early age, being molested in my family and dealing with incest opened up doors and portals for the spirit of perversion. Now I have a desire to help women and men deal with issues that has kept us from accomplishing and fulfilling our destiny. I will be assisting you in having an Extreme Makeover from the inside out Physically & Psychologically. I will teach you how to deal with it as we discover when, where and how you got to this place. You will come out VICTORIOUS!!!

    • 25 Things To Remember 
    • When You Low Self-Esteem by
    • Barrie Davenport
  • There was a time in my life when I didn’t believe in myself. Having grown up in your average dysfunctional family, I found myself in the role of peacekeeper and people pleaser from a young age.
    I believed if I was compliant and accommodating, I could keep everyone happy and prevent the wackadoodle behavior going on around me. On a deeper level, I was afraid of being emotionally abandoned. When my efforts didn’t work, I tried harder. Needless to say, over time I trained myself to stuff down my own feelings for fear I’d rock the boat further.
    In certain areas of my life, this pattern continued into young adulthood. During confrontational situations, I either backed down quickly or avoided engaging altogether. Although I was “rewarded” for being a pleaser, eventually my self-esteem began to waiver. I had false beliefs that I wasn’t good enough if I didn’t comply to the wants and needs of others. This mindset was unsustainable and soul crushing.
    When you get to this point, your psyche — and sometimes your body — begin to revolt. My internal revolution burst forth as raging generalized anxiety, accompanied by weird, unexplainable physical pains. Fortunately, with the help of a caring counselor, I was able to break free from these self-destructive beliefs and behaviors to know exactly what I want and deserve for myself.
    Whether you’re going through a low self-esteem phase in your life, or you just occasionally feel bad about yourself, it’s important to have some mental tools to help you recalibrate your thoughts so you can live with confidence and joy.

    1. You deserve more.

    When you are having a low self-esteem day, remind yourself that you deserve more than the negative beliefs you cloak yourself in. You are as deserving of success, happiness, and love as anyone in the world, even if you don’t feel that way in the moment. Accepting this intellectually will help you change your thoughts when your beliefs try to pull you down.

    2. You have one life.

    As far as you know today, this is your one and only life. If you live to age ninety, figure out how many days left you have to live. Really, add it up. You have a limited number of days, so do you want to waste one of them feeling bad about yourself and not demanding the best life has to offer? Do you really want to let others determine how you will live, or give away your precious life to fear?
    So many of my personal fears related to upsetting other people. It is uncomfortable to make people angry or feel their judgement or criticism. But you can live with it. If you stand up for yourself frequently enough, they’ll get the message. You’ll also feel incredibly empowered by speaking your mind and claiming your personal authority.

    4. Mistakes and failure are good.

    Sometimes we lack self-esteem because we’ve messed up in some way and therefore view ourselves as “worth less.” We think we’re worth less because we aren’t perfect. But anyone who is successful will tell you they reached success on the stepping stones of failure and screw-ups. Mistakes and failure reveal a willingness to take risk and try.

    5. Thoughts and beliefs aren’t reality.

    Low self-esteem is the result of years of messed up thinking. Something from your past contributed to your feeling “lesser than.” The triggering event is over, but your thoughts and feelings about it go on and on, making it feel like it’s as real as the original event. Thoughts and beliefs are nothing more than amorphous habits of consciousness.

    6. Action always helps.

    Rather than ruminating on how bad you feeling about yourself, do something positive and productive. This is particularly effective if the action you take relates to improving the area where you feel low self-esteem. If you’re feeling bad about your weight for example, go take a walk or exercise in some way. Action makes you feel in control of your destiny.

    7. Beauty is overrated.

    In my research on self-esteem, I found that most people hate their appearance and feel bad about themselves as a result. We live in a culture that worships youth and beauty, but in reality most people aren’t beautiful by the media’s standards. Everyone is physically “flawed” in some way. Imagine a life where it simply didn’t matter how you look. Then try to live that way.

    8. Comparing is toxic.

    How much time do you spend comparing yourself to other people and how they look, what they own, or what they’ve achieved? Comparing yourself to others is destructive to your self-esteem. Keep your eye on your own prize and stay focused on your goals and dreams. Live your one unique life the best way you can without worrying what others are doing.

    9. Appearances are deceptive.

    When we compare ourselves to others, we often get trapped in the false thinking that other people have perfects lives while we’re living our little crappy lives. Unless you are living inside another person’s home and have access to their thoughts and feelings, you simply don’t know the truth about their lives. Appearances are only a sliver of the truth.

    10. Most fears are illusions.

    This goes back to not believing your thoughts. Fear is aroused to warn you of imminent danger, but most of our fears relate to perceived events in the future. And most of these events aren’t life-threatening. You may always feel some amount of fear and anxiety, but you can use your logical mind to remind yourself that you aren’t going to die.

    11. You have many accomplishments.

    If you’re like most people, you probably spend far less time pondering your accomplishments than you do your failures. Turn that around. Focus on your accomplishments and successes, even the most insignificant. You have achieved so much in a lifetime. Take some time to write them down and savor them.

    12. Healthy relationships begin with self-love.

    When you have low self-esteem, your relationships suffer. A lack of confidence and neediness are unattractive and push others away from you, which only makes your low self-esteem worse. Practice self-love by honoring your own needs and desires, and by being compassionate and forgiving of yourself.

    13. People pleasing backfires.

    As I experienced myself, being a people pleaser doesn’t promote self-esteem or foster authentic, intimate relationships. You might get a temporary boost from the positive reinforcement, but over time you lose your sense of self and your respect for yourself. Please yourself first so you have the confidence to make sound decisions about dealing with the wants and needs of others.

    14. Passive-aggression is unhealthy.

    Those who suffer with low self-esteem often use passive aggressive behaviors when they feel angry or frustrated. They aren’t assertive enough to state plainly what they want or need. Sometimes passive aggressiveness erupts into unexpected angry outbursts. Learn about passive-aggressive behaviors and how you can practice healthier ways of communicating your feelings.

    15. It’s okay to have boundaries.

    Often people with low self-esteems are afraid to implement personal boundaries. In fact, they may not have defined any boundaries because they don’t believe they should have them. Remember, it’s not only okay to have them, but it is absolutely necessary for self-esteem and positive relationships. Other people may resist at first, but eventually they’ll respect you more for having boundaries.

    16. Social skills can be learned.

    If you feel unhappy with yourself because you don’t relate well to others or you’re social skills are lacking, don’t assume you have a personality or character flaw. Often people don’t learn these communication skills growing up and feel insecure as they get older. They fear reaching out for help since it would draw attention to their flaws. Social and communication skills can be learned by observing others, through reading and research, and with instruction from a therapist or coach.

    17. You can let go of people.

    When we’re insecure in ourselves, we often believe we are the cause for the bad behavior of others. They are angry, controlling, unreliable, or unhappy because we haven’t tried hard enough, or we did something wrong. Sometimes people simply have draining, negative personalities, and you don’t need to keep them in your life. It’s okay to let go of people who drag you down.

    18. Your instincts and judgements are the best.

    Do you find yourself frequently looking to others to reinforce your decisions or reassure you that you’re worthy and lovable? No one knows better what is best for you than you do. Practice making decisions without the input of others. Also, define what “worthy and lovable” mean to you, rather than looking outside of yourself for reassurance.

    19. Your words are powerful.

    If you say disparaging, unloving things about yourself, you are reinforcing your feelings of low self-esteem. The spoken word is powerful and cements your thoughts and beliefs more firmly. Putting yourself down also creates a negative perception in the minds of those who hear you. Remember when your mom would tell you, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything”? Well that applies to saying unloving things about yourself.

    20. People don’t think about you as much as you fear.

    Think about the number of times you’ve worried what other people must think of you or how they perceive you. The fear of other people’s perceptions holds us back from taking action and or being ourselves. However, most people are far too concerned about themselves to spend to much time focused on what you say or do. You don’t need to fret about this so much.

    21. Life is more grey than black and white.

    Those with low self-esteem tend to have rigid perceptions about how things are “supposed” to be, because they don’t trust themselves. Black and white thinking makes it easier to know what to do. This thinking often comes from blindly following authority figures. But there is so much more to life than your singular perceptions, and it’s empowering to discover the variety of possibilities in thinking and acting when you let go of rigidity.

    22. Your true self is more interesting than your mask.

    Whomever you might be pretending to be in order to feel better about yourself, this person isn’t nearly as appealing as the authentic you. Authenticity is one of the most attractive traits a person can have. Try dropping the mask and allow yourself to be real.

    23. The present moment is reality.

    Insecure people tend to dwell in the past and the future and ruminate about mistakes and worries. However, real life happens in the here and now. It’s the only reality, and it’s the only place to find peace, security, and happiness. How can you lack self-esteem when the present moment is perfect?

    24. You’re more capable than you think.

    If you set your aim low in order to protect yourself, then you never stretch to your fullest potential. If low self-esteem has held you back from taking chances or reaching for your dreams, you’ll never know how truly capable and talented you are.

    25. Seeking help is courageous.

    Some people view counseling as yet another sign of weakness or embarrassment. Actually, it’s a sign of strength and courage to acknowledge you want to change and to do something about it. A trained counselor can help you heal past wounds that triggered low self-esteem and work with you on new behaviors so you can love and respect yourself.
  • I PRAY THAT THIS BLESS YOU
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